Dear Twisted Stix;
I read your blog and thought why not ask the question that's been plaguing me lately. You see I'm a 28 year old female and I met this guy who is 23, and I really like him and he's a lot of fun but I can't seem to get my mind past the age difference. Do you think an older female can have a successful relationship with a younger man?
Signed,
Does Age Matter

Dear Does Age Mater;
Thanks for the question, I actually have a good friend who is going through the exact same thing right now and she asked me the same question, so I am going to tell you what I told her. If you were 65 and he was 60, would you have a problem? Most likely No. The issues right now is the particular ages you both are at. It's not different from when your 18 and he was 13. Your at different stages of life generally. Frankly a typically 28 year old female has one thing in her mind when it comes to relationships, "how long before he will ask me to marry him?" Where as a 23 year old male who in his mind still has a good five years before he has to think about such stuff, he's more out to experience life still, where the female has already done that and is ready to move on. Guys seem to have stages and the marring stage seems to fail between 27 and 33, before that they just want to be out and do a lot of stuff, after that they have a new found desire for youth and will try to date very young women or they get to set in their bachelor ways. I am not saying it wont work, for every person is different. Some people mature faster or slower then other's. You may be a women who isn't interested in marriage for at least another 5 to 10 years and the guy could be one of those guys that has been ready to get married since the first day he figured out that girls were different then boys. So it all boils down to... Follow your Heart, if you have doubts that he is ready for what you are looking for then your most likely right. Be honest and talk to him. He could be the same age as you and be less interested in marriage then a 20 year old. If you guys can find some common ground of goals and interests for this stage of your lives even if they are not identical, it could have great potential. But if your looking for that committed relationship and he's still living with mommy and daddy and going to school and can't think ahead past where's he's going out drinking that evening. Then you have a problem.
Signed,
Twisted Stix